Thursday, December 27, 2007

Molestation cases are never easy for people to deal with, the make those on the outside uncomfortable due to not being able to understand, which in turn can make the survivor feel ostracized or just plain uncomfortable.
This is not always the case some people can understand. The survivor isn't any different then they were 5 minutes ago, but the molestation itself has in some way shaped them into the person they are. Thats the thing to remember.
Sadly tho, sometimes the survivor never realized that is exactly what they are, a survivor. Instead the fall into the victim and wallow in pain and suffering for the rest of their lives.
My hearts always gone out to them.
I vowed a long time ago to do whatever was in my power to be able to help someone in need. That maybe I can turn a victim into a survivor like someone once did for me. I read so many cases about molestation and rape, sex crimes in general. I find I can relate to them in some way or another from my own personal experience. Something has always bothered me tho, why is there a double standard when a woman is the molester?
Maybe I'm wrong, but it seems to me that there is a different set of punishment for women offenders then there are for males. I just recently read a case about a teacher (yeah, another one) who was engaged in a sex with a 15 year old student and recieved an 8 year suspended sentence and 3 years of probation. My first thought was, if the teacher was male, would that 8 year sentence have been suspended? Shouldn't a teacher, whom we give our trust to as parents and have to give our trust to as students, be held accountable even more so? Does not the child still have to suffer with the same emotional and developmental problems?
Here is a good case in point, Vincent Margera from Viva La Bam was sentenced to 10 years to life on probation for his case of fondling 3 girls at a autograph signing. On top of that, he was ordered not to perform as his character Don Vito on the show for 10 years. Is this not a double standard?

Now, not all cases I've come across have been treated lightly. I seriously doubt the rape case involving the football players in NC with be dealt with lightly. Though part of a comment from the coach bothered me... "I am relieved that the players were not injured"
...but weren't they?